Controlling your attitude

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Here we go… 

THREE - TWO - ONE

THREE very different conversations this week I had that in some way all ended with the same lesson. 

1- One of my friends tends to get overwhelmed at this time of year. November is not her favourite month because of all the above observations I mentioned plus thinking ahead to the Holidays. The overwhelming feeling of what to buy as presents, making plans, deciding how to celebrate while taking the extended family into consideration, etc.  Does this sound familiar? 

2 -A family member I was speaking to this week had a bad fall, injured pretty severely which required an immediate surgery a few weeks ago. This was my first time talking to her since the fall. First of all, the time spent on her, her injury or surgery was kept to a  minimum. She did not want to go on and on about the actual event. Instead, we talked about how life sends us little nudges, messages and lessons. This situation left her very vulnerable and completely dependant on others. She lives alone and has never had any health issues or injuries that required this much dependency on others to take care of her every personal need. In fact, she has, over and over again, been the one helping others who require help. This was the lesson she felt she was supposed to learn… that you can accept or fight it. Do you know anyone in your life with a similar story? 

3 - During a session with one of my coaching clients (she is ok with me sharing this story), she shared her work was going through a huge change AGAIN with structure, who will be reporting to her, and who she will be reporting to. She felt so upset about how they communicated this information and how upper management did not seem to think everything through. All the things that will go wrong and the negative sides of this change. Have changes ever happened that impacted you and you did not feel good about them?

TWO realizations: 

1- Every conversation above ended up going in the same direction. All three acknowledged that the situation presented  itself with or without their consent or control over it. 

2- One thing that became clear through these conversations is that the ONLY control anyone has over any situation is our attitude. How we face the event, what attitude we wish to bring to the situation. That is all we can truly control.  

ONE ACTION for this week: 

1- This week, is there anything coming up or that is going on that you might not be 100% in control of or that might be challenging or difficult? What if you made the decision to truly chose your attitude regardless of others’ attitude, the situation or the outcome?